It's a revolting thing to overhear in other people, but can feel perfectly right between you and certain lovers... What am I referring to?
Babytalk!
I've had six longish term relationships, but only two of them involved babytalk. I was thinking about this while driving in the car the other day (where most of my serious contemplation is performed), and suddenly realised that babytalk is quite a spiritual act. Why? Because it's linked to our deeper selves; our inner child. Only when that innocent little person buried deep inside us feels very safe and secure does s/he come out to play and express themself. That's why some lovers will not feel 'right' to babytalk with.
I used to get really, really, really annoyed when The Bachelor's Trista would babytalk big muscly fireman Ryan - (major cringe factor) - however their marriage has lasted, with kids to boot. So is babytalk healthy and good for you - and possibly the sign of a loving, comforting, secure relationship?
No, says this website, which reckons "babytalk can be a way of avoiding adult issues in your relationship. It's a way of hiding from grown-up decisions. It can also be a strategy to hide anger in a relationship." Hmm. Elsewhere, I found a poll which - while presumably entirely unscientific - appears to indicate that only five per cent of couples indulge in babytalk. Which seems, to me, to indicate that it's something rather special, indeed rare!
I have no doubt that everyone has different opinions about this, 'cos babytalk is a controversial topic!, but I can't help feeling that it's all about exposing a very vulnerable, raw, naive part of yourself. It's like admitting you want to be taken care of by this person who means the world to you... and possibly also that you're healthily in touch with the warmer, creative, imaginative elements of yourself (you're not a closed-off, boring adult!)
Here's a channelled message to finish the thought: "Babytalk is about being yourelf and never hiding any parts of yourself... Two souls meeting and interacting in a childlike state comfortably and easily together. Let yourself come out and play. Use it as a form of nurturing. It's just an expression of who you are; not something to be ashamed of. Just be." Aww!